To Lead is To Love is To Serve

The anatomy of marriage

“Marriage is the graduate school of service.” – Pastor David Chadwick I’ve made no secret of my belief in marriage. Mrs. Booth and I have been married for nearly 32 years, with the struggles and joys that come with being married that long. It has been and is a great thing and I love being […]

Re-post: On Stock Cars and Station Wagons

Why confusing love and marriage leads to dysfunction

Commenter Dale provided a reminder recently of an important concept that deserves more attention: “Dalrock, on his blog, has somewhat regularly been hitting the idea that we have love and marriage totally backwards. We think that a relationship of romantic love is the correct place in which to have sex and create marriage. A consequence […]

Re-post — Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part I

Marriage rocks - but you must be present to win

Note: In last week’s post, I quoted J. R. R. Tolkien’s saying that monogamy for men isn’t natural. I agree. It is, however, worth the effort as I explain in this post and its follow-up.   “He who loves one woman has loved them all. He who has loved many women has loved none.”  – […]

J.R.R. Tolkien on Love, Sex, and Marriage

What the author of "The Lord of the Rings" told his son

I encountered what I’m about to share with you quite providentially. In a discussion regarding male-female relationships, someone made a passing reference to the letters J.R.R. Tolkien wrote to his son. Being a fan of “The Hobbit” and “The Lord of the Rings, I was intrigued, went looking for the letter, and found it. I […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part II

What's in it for both of you

“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he grazes among the lilies.” – Song of Solomon 6:3 In my last post, I began a discussion regarding the benefits of monogamy. You can read Part I here. This time, I’d like to lay out some of the blessings and benefits of lifelong faithfulness. Knowing […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part I

Marriage rocks - but you must be present to win

“He who loves one woman has loved them all. He who has loved many women has loved none.”  – Spanish proverb In my last post, I explained why the myth of “The One” could be hazardous to your prospects for a healthy and satisfying marriage. Some men refer to this phenomenon as oneitis (as in: […]

Why Pursuing “The One” Will Leave You Lonely

As the man said, "The perfect is the enemy of the good."

“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.” – Proverbs 27:15-16 (ESV) Note: Welcome to my 100th post — which also coincides with the first anniversary of our launch. Thank you for reading, for […]

If You Tell A Man to “Man Up…”

You probably also like kissing frogs unironically

“Tell me, and I may forget. Show me, and I may remember. Involve me, and I may understand.” -Chinese Proverb Fortunately for all of us, it appears we are seeing a dramatic decrease in the use of the term “Man up.” If only the spirit behind it would follow it down. As is true with […]

On Stock Cars and Station Wagons

Why confusing love and marriage leads to dysfunction

Commenter Dale provided a reminder recently of an important concept that deserves more attention: “Dalrock, on his blog, has somewhat regularly been hitting the idea that we have love and marriage totally backwards. We think that a relationship of romantic love is the correct place in which to have sex and create marriage. A consequence […]

When You Marry a Mountain Girl, You Marry The Mountain

Part 2 of 2

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” -Proverbs 18:22 (ESV) In part 1, we talked about the wisdom of getting to know your beloved before you say “I do.” That mountain in the title isn’t just the woman’s family. To help you in this process, here are […]