Re-post: How to Write a Great Thank You Note

Put those grateful thoughts on paper - and mail them

“Thank you, the phrase, ‘the greatest thing since sliced bread,’ for making me seriously wonder who’s in charge of deciding what the greatest thing is.” – Jimmy Fallon I’m sure you received a lot of nice gifts for Christmas this year.  If you want to stand out as a man — to be the best version of yourself possible — take the time […]

The How and Why of Saying No to Your Boss

Daniel and the Limits of Obedience

“Learn to say ‘no’ to the good so you can say ‘yes’ to the best.” – John C. Maxwell In a recent post, I explained the debt a man owes to his employer. (If you weren’t paying attention then, you can read it here.) In that post I presented a general rule that employees should […]

The Debt of Submission

Rendering unto Caesar without selling your soul

“Render unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s and render unto God that which is God’s.” – Jesus Call me cynical, but I am hearing and seeing more instances of employers behaving in a high-handed and indifferent way toward their employees. This is not an indication that human nature has descended to a new level of […]

Re-Post: Wynton’s Ways to Practice

A jazz great breaks it down for us

I’ve been a musician since my early teens — ever since I spent an entire summer harvesting tobacco –by hand! — to buy my first bass guitar and my first amp.  And while I was proud of myself for earning the money and owning the equipment, I was immediately confronted with the task of learning […]

Re-Post: Why You — Not Your Company — Should Own Your Career

Think like a contractor to be a rock star at work

“Take particular care in picking out your building materials. Eventually there is going to be an inspection. If you use cheap or inferior materials, you’ll be found out. The inspection will be thorough and rigorous. You won’t get by with a thing. If your work passes inspection, fine; if it doesn’t, your part of the […]

Re-Post: Follow Your Passion — or Develop Your Passion?

Learning to Love What Must Be Done

The following story appeared as a guest post by Mark Kinsley on Q’s Views — the blog of Mark Quinn.  I have obtained the permission of Los Dos Marcos to reproduce it in part here.  Click here to read the original post. I want to feature this story here because young men are complaining that […]

Re-Post: Meet the Hall of Fame Running Back Who Didn’t Like Football


Note: In honor of the start of football season, here’s a post from the early days of this blog. For a lot of men, fall means football.  Perhaps it’s the memory of their own playing days in Pop Warner leagues, sandlot games or the varsity squad.  Maybe it’s memories of going to games with Dad.  Or […]

The Best Advice Ever Was a Stern Rebuke

Do the work - it will pay off eventually

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend;     profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” – Proverbs 27:6 (ESV) The story I’m about to tell you is true. While I am not particularly proud of certain aspects of this story, I think it has a happy enough ending, as well as a useful moral, so I’m […]

Why You Should Always Take ALL Your Allotted Vacation Days

Work/Life "Balance" is a misnomer -- Life is much heavier

“It is in vain that you rise up early     and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil;     for he gives to his beloved sleep.” – Psalm 127:2 (ESV) As a man considers his work, and how it fits or doesn’t fit his life, he needs to set aside proper amounts of time […]

How To Fire Up the Engine of Your Effectiveness

Why you need Passion, Purpose and Potential to thrive

“You can’t go around half-pregnant.” – A famous saying by my uncle. Our mission here at Ontozoan – One Real Life is to motivate and inspire men to embrace Thriving Authentic Masculinity and to become the best possible version of themselves. Part of the way we accomplish this is through my passing along lessons I’ve […]