Increase Your Effectiveness by Knowing Who You Are

Act from your identity not into it

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates In my original post on this topic, I explained Robert Ardrey’s idea that our psychological and emotional needs center on Identity, Stimulation, and Security. In my previous post on Identity we discussed that identity emanates from essence, from existence. It is rooted primarily in the unchangeable […]

Rendering Unto Caesar

Obey the king, but remember: he's just renting!

Here are my thoughts on the aftermath of our recent US elections: I started my outline on this subject before election day, and I found that it really jelled after I began reading and seeing friends’ reactions on social media. I believe we are not our own, and that we not only have obligations to […]

J.R.R. Tolkien on Love, Sex, and Marriage

What the author of "The Lord of the Rings" told his son

I encountered what I’m about to share with you quite providentially. In a discussion regarding male-female relationships, someone made a passing reference to the letters J.R.R. Tolkien wrote to his son. Being a fan of “The Hobbit” and “The Lord of the Rings, I was intrigued, went looking for the letter, and found it. I […]

Treasured Friendships Make a Man Rich

Here's to the ones that know you and love you anyway

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” – Proverbs 17:17 I just came back from a long weekend with four of my oldest — in terms of length of friendship — friends. We arranged to meet for a four-day weekend on the North Carolina coast to catch up, watch […]