What If You Couldn’t Lose?

What would you do differently?

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28 (ESV) I owe a number of debts to author John Eldredge. His collaboration with the late Brent Curtis, The Sacred Romance, revolutionized my perception of the character and […]

When Your Only Tool Is a Hammer…

The devaluation of useful words through overuse

“When your only tool is a hammer, all the world looks like a nail.” – Ancient Proverb A note from your host: I considered writing this as an open-letter to my fictional  twentysomething nephew. My reasoning was that my intentions might be more apparent if I was expressing these thoughts in a relational context — […]

Yes, You Need Security, But…

Is it better to be safe or sorry?

“Life is pain, anyone who says differently is selling something.” – William Goldman, The Princess Bride Over the past several weeks we’ve been elaborating on the emotional and psychological needs articulated by Robert Ardrey in his book The Territorial Imperative. Those needs are Identity, Stimulation, and Security. In the various posts on these subjects we’ve […]

Truth-fetishism and Confirmation Bias

It's a trap

Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:31 – 32 I have noticed that our society has an obsession with “truth.” I don’t believe it started with politics, but this is the arena — […]

Re-Post: The Only Way Off This Mountain Is Over It

The enduring lessons of masculine initiation

Note: While I’m working on creating some new posts, I’m re-posting some of my favorites, such as this one. When my older son was about to turn ten, I began a three-year process of initiating him into manhood.  (How I came to this decision is the subject of an upcoming post.)  The first part of this […]

Want to Be A Wizard? Learn What They Knew

Seek wisdom and emulate the greats

“We three kings of Orient are, Bearing gifts, we traverse afar…” This week marks the Feast of the Epiphany — the observance of the arrival of the Wise Men who came to worship the baby Jesus. Now, the date is not exact, and it’s exceedingly unlikely that the wise men arrived on the night Jesus […]

Re-Post: The Way Home

Four steps to get you headed in the right direction

To this point, we’ve talked about chastity, about getting fit, about developing a work ethic and about perseverance — all oriented toward actions you can take to improve your future.  But what if your past is holding you back?  I mean, what if you’ve totally blown it?  Is there a way to start over, or […]

Masculine Initiation – A Field Report

A note from the host: The following is a first-person account of masculine initiation, written by my son, Samuel.  I’m proud and honored to welcome him as the author of this site’s first guest post.  Here’s Sam: The summer before my tenth birthday, my Dad took me on a four-day backpacking trip. This was the start of […]

The Way Home

To this point, we’ve talked about chastity, about getting fit, about developing a work ethic and about perseverance — all oriented toward actions you can take to improve your future.  But what if your past is holding you back?.  I mean, what if you’ve totally blown it?  Is there a way to start over, or […]

The Only Way Off This Mountain Is Over It

When my older son was about to turn ten, I began a three-year process of initiating him into manhood.  (How I came to this decision is the subject of an upcoming post.)  The first part of this entailed a four-day backpacking trip along a segment of the Foothills Trail in the mountains of South Carolina. Here […]