Act! It’s How Wisdom Triumphs over Ignorance and Injustice

Once you see something, you can't "un-see" it

“We are men of action. Lies do not become us.” – The Princess Bride We’ve all seen some shocking events in the news lately. Undercover videos have removed the gauzy curtains of plausible deniability regarding the true nature of abortion and the truly abhorrent selling of human body parts by Planned Parenthood. For those who […]

Why You Should Always Take ALL Your Allotted Vacation Days

Work/Life "Balance" is a misnomer -- Life is much heavier

“It is in vain that you rise up early     and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil;     for he gives to his beloved sleep.” – Psalm 127:2 (ESV) As a man considers his work, and how it fits or doesn’t fit his life, he needs to set aside proper amounts of time […]

Why Should A Man Choose Integrity Over Pragmatism?

“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.” – Proverbs 14:12 How do you make decisions? When you’re running out of time and you have to choose one option and only one option, how do you determine which one to take? Some men select the […]

How To Fire Up the Engine of Your Effectiveness

Why you need Passion, Purpose and Potential to thrive

“You can’t go around half-pregnant.” – A famous saying by my uncle. Our mission here at Ontozoan – One Real Life is to motivate and inspire men to embrace Thriving Authentic Masculinity and to become the best possible version of themselves. Part of the way we accomplish this is through my passing along lessons I’ve […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part II

What's in it for both of you

“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he grazes among the lilies.” – Song of Solomon 6:3 In my last post, I began a discussion regarding the benefits of monogamy. You can read Part I here. This time, I’d like to lay out some of the blessings and benefits of lifelong faithfulness. Knowing […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part I

Marriage rocks - but you must be present to win

“He who loves one woman has loved them all. He who has loved many women has loved none.”  – Spanish proverb In my last post, I explained why the myth of “The One” could be hazardous to your prospects for a healthy and satisfying marriage. Some men refer to this phenomenon as oneitis (as in: […]

Why Pursuing “The One” Will Leave You Lonely

As the man said, "The perfect is the enemy of the good."

“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.” – Proverbs 27:15-16 (ESV) Note: Welcome to my 100th post — which also coincides with the first anniversary of our launch. Thank you for reading, for […]

Is The Matrix Making You Fat and Numb?

Learning to look past the surface

“When the righteous increase, the people rejoice, but when the wicked rule, the people groan.” – Proverbs 29:2 (ESV) In the movie The Matrix, there is a confrontation between Morpheus — the guide who helps Thomas Anderson become Neo — and Agent Smith, the nondescript enforcer of the meta-construct. Smith has taken Morpheus captive and […]