{"id":799,"date":"2015-03-20T00:23:50","date_gmt":"2015-03-20T00:23:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.therealgeobooth.com\/?p=799"},"modified":"2015-03-20T00:23:50","modified_gmt":"2015-03-20T00:23:50","slug":"milf-men-id-like-for-us-to-focus","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.therealgeobooth.com\/?p=799","title":{"rendered":"MILF — Men, I’d Like for us to Focus"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Stacy’s mom has got it goin’ on…”<\/em>
\n -Fountains of Wayne<\/em><\/p>\n

There seems to be a fascination with older women as sex objects. \u00a0The terms Cougar or MILF may be fairly recent,\u00a0but the appeal of an experienced older woman is not new. \u00a0Even before Stifler’s mom, or Stacy’s mom, the movies “The Graduate” and “Summer of ’42” —\u00a0 from the late 1960’s and early ’70’s — each featured a main character sexually initiated by an experienced older woman. \u00a0 This is now officially a fetish, but the phenomenon is even older than that.<\/div>\n
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If you’re familiar with the Old Testament story of Joseph, you’ll recall that his jealous older brothers faked his death and sold him into slavery to an Egyptian official namedPotiphar. \u00a0Genesis 39:5-12 takes it from here:<\/p>\n
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From the time he put him in charge of his household and of all that he owned, the Lord blessed the household of the Egyptian because of Joseph. The blessing of the Lord was on everything Potiphar had, both in the house and in the field. \u00a0So Potiphar left everything he had in Joseph\u2019s care; with Joseph in charge, he did not concern himself with anything except the food he ate.Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, and after a while his master\u2019s wife took notice of Joseph and said, \u201cCome to bed with me!\u201dBut he refused. \u201cWith me in charge,\u201d he told her, \u201cmy master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care. \u00a0No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?\u201d And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her.One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. \u00a0She caught him by his cloak and said, \u201cCome to bed with me!\u201d But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.”<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Note the aggressiveness with which an older, married woman pursues a young man for her own gratification. \u00a0As Solomon said, “There is nothing new under the sun.” \u00a0What is remarkable, however, is Joseph’s behavior in the face of the attempted seduction.<\/div>\n
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Joseph refuses to take the bait. \u00a0Notice the circumstances: \u00a0He and Mrs. P. are alone in the house. \u00a0She is making her intentions very plain. \u00a0It seems that nobody would ever find out. \u00a0 And this happens more than once. \u00a0Joseph refused to even be with her, ultimately fleeing her presence when she acted\u00a0even more aggressively. \u00a0This is the model for men.<\/div>\n
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Previously, we have discussed that we men are called to be chaste and that we are called to lead in the arena of relationships. \u00a0This means each bachelor is\u00a0to be the sexual gatekeeper — \u00a0not a passive opportunist that makes game day decisions regarding sex that hinge on whether the woman he’s dating is willing. \u00a0Mrs. Potiphar was willing and Joseph took the long view. \u00a0Any woman who identifies herself as a cougar is signaling willingness. You should aspire to more than to be a woman’s thrill ride.<\/div>\n
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Joseph’s secret<\/strong><\/div>\n
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We can only imagine how difficult it must have been for Joseph to avoid giving in to such persistent temptation. \u00a0If there’s a secret, it’s this: Joseph wasn’t governed by his appetite, rather he was motivated by faithfulness to God. \u00a0There’s more to it, of course, but I like to think of the formula this way: \u00a0Faithfulness = love + gratitude. \u00a0 Loving God and maintaining a thankful heart make it easier to see past the momentary pleasure that illicit sex promises.<\/div>\n
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Why it matters<\/strong>
\nElsewhere, I’ve written about presenting my sons with knives<\/a> as part of each one’s initiation into manhood. \u00a0I want to repeat a bit of that here. \u00a0Your masculine strength is like a knife. \u00a0Don’t let someone -anyone- use it against you. Keep it sharp, keep it clean, and keep under your control. \u00a0Falling for the seduction is like handing over your blade. \u00a0And don’t forget that eroticism and promiscuity<\/a> are two of the weapons intended to lure you into forfeiting your strength.<\/div>\n
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Why does it happen?<\/strong>
\nI expect each predatory woman has her own agenda, but at a heart level, a woman never gets away from her heart ‘s deepest question – “Am I beautiful?” \u00a0A woman who finds herself without an answer to this question will seek validation in the arms of multiple lovers — or at least in the gaze of multiple admirers. \u00a0The greener pastures promised by divorce — and nearly three quarters of American divorces are initiated by the wife — mean there are more unattached women seeking to get their question answered.<\/div>\n
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A warning from King Solomon<\/strong><\/div>\n
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20\u00a0<\/sup>My son, keep your father\u2019s command<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>and do not forsake your mother\u2019s teaching.<\/span><\/span>
\n21\u00a0<\/sup>Bind them always on your heart;<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>fasten them around your neck.<\/span><\/span>
\n22\u00a0<\/sup>When you walk, they will guide you;<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>when you sleep, they will watch over you;<\/span><\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>when you awake, they will speak to you.<\/span><\/span>
\n23 <\/sup><\/span>For this command is a lamp,<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>this teaching is a light,<\/span><\/span>
\nand correction and instruction<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>are the way to life,<\/span><\/span>
\n24\u00a0<\/sup>keeping you from your neighbor\u2019s wife,<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>from the smooth talk of a wayward woman.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n

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25\u00a0<\/sup>Do not lust in your heart after her beauty<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>or let her captivate you with her eyes.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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26\u00a0<\/sup>For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread,<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>but another man\u2019s wife preys on your very life.<\/span><\/span>
\n27\u00a0<\/sup>Can a man scoop fire into his lap<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>without his clothes being burned?<\/span><\/span>
\n28\u00a0<\/sup>Can a man walk on hot coals<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>without his feet being scorched?<\/span><\/span>
\n29\u00a0<\/sup>So is he who sleeps with another man\u2019s wife;<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>no one who touches her will go unpunished.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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30\u00a0<\/sup>People do not despise a thief if he steals<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>to satisfy his hunger when he is starving.<\/span><\/span>
\n31\u00a0<\/sup>Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold,<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>though it costs him all the wealth of his house.<\/span><\/span>
\n32\u00a0<\/sup>But a man who commits adultery has no sense;<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>whoever does so destroys himself.<\/span><\/span>
\n33\u00a0<\/sup>Blows and disgrace are his lot,<\/span>
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>and his shame will never be wiped away.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

34\u00a0<\/sup>For jealousy arouses a husband\u2019s fury,
\n\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/span>and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
\n<\/span>35\u00a0<\/sup>He will not accept any compensation;
\nhe will refuse a bribe, however great it is.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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-Proverbs 6:20-35 (NIV)<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Very few people belong to nobody. Nearly every woman you meet is somebody’s wife, fianc\u00e9e, daughter, mother, sister or friend. \u00a0If you steal her beauty or allow her to steal your strength, her people might just\u00a0hunt you down. Even if not, God sees everything. \u00a0So be like Joseph and focus on pleasing God.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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So how about you?<\/strong> \u00a0What’s your plan for living a chaste life? \u00a0Add your comments below.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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