Why It Pays to Be a Free Agent

Don't lend your name to every trendy cause

“My son, if you have put up security for your neighbor, if you have shaken hands in pledge for a stranger, you have been trapped by what you said, ensnared by the words of your mouth. So do this, my son, to free yourself, since you have fallen into your neighbor’s hands: Go—to the point […]

Re-post: The Most Powerful Lie Is The One You Tell Yourself

“People lose their way when they lose their why” – Gail Hyatt A man on a mission has to be on his guard, as there are obstacles and enemies that would thwart his purpose. Bandits will try to rob him, women will try to seduce him, fatigue will try to overpower him and even his […]

Re-Post: Little Brother is Watching You

Why you and I are not our own

“Therefore I urge you to imitate me.”  – 1 Corinthians 4:16 (NIV) –Saint Paul Time for another visit to the poetry corner. Note: I found this years ago in a poetry anthology belonging to my grandfather. I noticed it because when he read something that stuck with him, he’d sign his name on the page. […]

Stimulation Is Good But Beware the Fakes

Get to know genuine accomplishment and real satisfaction

“Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways.” – Psalm 119:37 We have spent the last several weeks considering the importance of the psychological and emotional needs Identity, Stimulation, and Security. In this post, I’d like to discuss the consequences of the misplaced or unmoderated need for stimulation. […]

Re-post: Why It Pays to Pay What You Owe

Default shouldn't be your default

“A good name is more desirable than great riches;     to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” -Proverbs 22:1 (NIV) A couple of years ago, the New York Times published an op-ed piece by Lee Siegel titled “Why I Defaulted on My Student Loans” in which the author explained — duh! — why he […]

Defeating the False Self – a First-Person Account

He's not all bad...

In my previous post on identity, I warned against the rise of the impostor, also known as the false self. If you’re like me and most of the men I’ve met, you have either overcome the false self, or you are living the life of the false self. What is this False Self you speak […]

Your Identity Should Not Be a Secret — to You

Knowing who you are and what you stand for is crucial

“Know thyself” – Socrates Last week, I re-posted a longish discussion of Robert Ardrey’s theory that Identity, Stimulation, and Security are the three psychological and emotional needs that we must fulfill once our immediate physical needs are satisfied. I titled that post “Three Vectors of Emotional Health,” and I declared my intention to comment further […]

Finding the Truth in the Dark

How the graphic contrasts of "Hacksaw Ridge" highlight honor and integrity

“Then he taught me, and he said to me, ‘Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live. Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or turn away from them. Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over […]

Rendering Unto Caesar

Obey the king, but remember: he's just renting!

Here are my thoughts on the aftermath of our recent US elections: I started my outline on this subject before election day, and I found that it really jelled after I began reading and seeing friends’ reactions on social media. I believe we are not our own, and that we not only have obligations to […]

Re-post: The Root of the Poison Tree

How Marxist feminism and the left have painted a target on men

“The increasing complexity and precariousness of our economic life have forced Government to take over many spheres of activity once left to choice or chance. Our intellectuals have surrendered first to the slave-philosophy of Hegel, then to Marx, finally to the linguistic analysts.” – C. S. Lewis from “Willing Slaves of the Welfare State” Last […]