Re-post: Why You Need Your Question Answered

The crazy among us seek stimulation by creating drama

 “Crazy is like glitter. It sticks to everything, gets everywhere, and you never get rid of it.”  – Anonymous (or perhaps I said it first) Over the past several posts we have been dealing with the primary emotional needs of Identity, Stimulation, and Security. Playwright-turned-anthropologist Robert Ardrey deserves the credit for identifying these three — […]

The Blessings of Adversity

The struggle is real -- and necessary

When it’s too tough for everybody else, it’s just right for me. – Anonymous In an earlier post, I argued that hardship shapes character. This time, I want to develop that idea further. Would you believe me if I said you need a battle to fight? An adversary? A foil? Think about it: every great […]

Why You Need Your Question Answered

Seeking stimulation by creating drama

 “Crazy is like glitter. It sticks to everything, gets everywhere, and you never get rid of it.”  – Anonymous (or perhaps I said it first) Over the past several posts we have been dealing with the primary emotional needs of Identity, Stimulation, and Security. Playwright-turned-anthropologist Robert Ardrey deserves the credit for identifying these three — […]

Re-post: Seven-and-a-Half Tips for Masculine Initiation — and Why They Matter

Who else will come through for your son if you will not?

“Of all sad words of tongue or pen the saddest are these IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN” -Anonymous I have written about the importance of masculine initiation here and here, and I’ve featured a post written by my older son providing his perspective.  In this post, I want to provide some practical considerations against the day […]

Re-post: Masculine Initiation – A Field Report

Listen to the guy who's been there

A note from the host: The following is a first-person account of masculine initiation, written by my son, Samuel.  I’m proud and honored to welcome him as the author of this site’s first guest post.  Here’s Sam: The summer before my tenth birthday, my Dad took me on a four-day backpacking trip. This was the start of […]

Re-post: Why I Gave My Nine-Year-Old Son a Combat Knife

Look sharp!

It was the first night of my son’s initiation into manhood.  We had hiked to the top of Pinnacle Mountain and beyond the boundaries of Table Rock State Park and made camp for the night.  After dinner, we sat by our campfire, and I began to explain to my son the purpose and the content […]

Re-Post: The Only Way Off This Mountain Is Over It

The enduring lessons of masculine initiation

Note: While I’m working on creating some new posts, I’m re-posting some of my favorites, such as this one. When my older son was about to turn ten, I began a three-year process of initiating him into manhood.  (How I came to this decision is the subject of an upcoming post.)  The first part of this […]

Seven-and-a-half Tips for Masculine Initiation – And Why They Matter

“Of all sad words of tongue or pen the saddest are these IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN” -Anonymous I have written about the importance of masculine initiation here and here, and I’ve featured a post written by my older son providing his perspective.  In this post, I want to provide some practical considerations against the day […]

Masculine Initiation – A Field Report

A note from the host: The following is a first-person account of masculine initiation, written by my son, Samuel.  I’m proud and honored to welcome him as the author of this site’s first guest post.  Here’s Sam: The summer before my tenth birthday, my Dad took me on a four-day backpacking trip. This was the start of […]