The How and Why of Saying No to Your Boss

Daniel and the Limits of Obedience

“Learn to say ‘no’ to the good so you can say ‘yes’ to the best.” – John C. Maxwell In a recent post, I explained the debt a man owes to his employer. (If you weren’t paying attention then, you can read it here.) In that post I presented a general rule that employees should […]

Re-Post: The Way Home

Four steps to get you headed in the right direction

To this point, we’ve talked about chastity, about getting fit, about developing a work ethic and about perseverance — all oriented toward actions you can take to improve your future.  But what if your past is holding you back?  I mean, what if you’ve totally blown it?  Is there a way to start over, or […]

Re-Post: Wynton’s Ways to Practice

A jazz great breaks it down for us

I’ve been a musician since my early teens — ever since I spent an entire summer harvesting tobacco –by hand! — to buy my first bass guitar and my first amp.  And while I was proud of myself for earning the money and owning the equipment, I was immediately confronted with the task of learning […]

Re-Post: Crisis? What Crisis?

It is  is hard to describe the condition of masculinity in the US  as anything other than grim.  Women earn close to 60% of the college degrees awarded each year, and since a college degree is the price of admission to most salaried jobs, this places men at a disadvantage in launching a career.  The knowledge […]

Want to Get Lean? Eat Fat and Protein

I'm not a doctor, and no, I don't want to play doctor with you...

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.” – Charles M. Schulz Recently, I wrote about how I broke through from fat to fit. In that post, I promised to share what I’ve learned over time about eating for optimum fitness. Some of this might be new to you […]

Why Authority Is the Least Important Aspect of Leadership

"Because I said so," is a doomed strategy

“In a multitude of people is the glory of a king,     but without people a prince is ruined.” – Proverbs 14:28 Several months ago, I wrote a post on leadership titled “Lead From The Front” in which I outlined several aspects of good leadership. I hope that you’ve been putting these into practice and that […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part II

What's in it for both of you

“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he grazes among the lilies.” – Song of Solomon 6:3 In my last post, I began a discussion regarding the benefits of monogamy. You can read Part I here. This time, I’d like to lay out some of the blessings and benefits of lifelong faithfulness. Knowing […]

Monogamy: The Virtues of the One and Only – Part I

Marriage rocks - but you must be present to win

“He who loves one woman has loved them all. He who has loved many women has loved none.”  – Spanish proverb In my last post, I explained why the myth of “The One” could be hazardous to your prospects for a healthy and satisfying marriage. Some men refer to this phenomenon as oneitis (as in: […]

Why Pursuing “The One” Will Leave You Lonely

As the man said, "The perfect is the enemy of the good."

“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.” – Proverbs 27:15-16 (ESV) Note: Welcome to my 100th post — which also coincides with the first anniversary of our launch. Thank you for reading, for […]

How Cultivating Resilience Can Save Your Life

Suicide sucks -- ask the ones who've been there. Oh wait.

“No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it.” -1 Corinthians 10:13 (MSG) […]