Devote Yourself to the Process – Part I

“When all else fails, read the directions.” – Bob Smith If you’ve ever built anything, cooked anything or learned anything, no doubt you followed a series of steps to bring the desired outcome to fruition.  If you’ve decided to live a life of consequence, and you’ve begun to discover your purpose, and you’re developing a […]

The Fence That Me and Shorty Built

Here’s a trip back to the poetry corner.  If you’re discouraged about the kind of work that’s available to you currently, you might find this helpful.  Here’s cowboy poet Red Steagall: The Fence That Me and Shorty Built We’d picked up all the fencing tools And staples off the road An extra roll of “bob” […]

How to Disagree Agreeably

“A man’s got to know his limitations.” -Det. Harry Callahan – a/k/a Dirty Harry There are times in a man’s life when he cannot remain silent.  It may be on behalf of someone else, or you may have to stand up for yourself, but when the time comes, voicing your objection in the right way […]

Authenticity: To Be Rather Than To Seem

Esse Quam Videri — To Be Rather Than To Seem — State Motto of North Carolina As the father of sons born in the ’90’s here’s what I see:  If there’s one word that seems to epitomize the values of the Millennial cohort it is authenticity.  In contrast to the Generation X and Baby Boom cohorts, […]

What Are You Doing Here? – Discover Your Purpose

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”  – Howard Thurman (1900-1981) In the movie Boyhood, the young protagonist asks his father what it all means.  Their conversation goes like this: Mason: So what’s the point? Dad: […]

Four Reasons Why Sex Is Such a Big Deal

“I could never take a chance Of losing love to find romance In the mysterious distance Between a man and a woman.”    -U2 As the saying goes, men think about sex roughly every seven seconds.  Sometimes it can seem like more frequently than that!  Whether that is the reason or not, our entertainment, our […]

Isolation vs. Solitude

“Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.” … Proverbs 18:1 Let’s start with this premise: time alone is a mixed blessing.  On one hand, having a set time and place to be alone with one’s thoughts can be wonderfully restorative.  Conversely, too much time alone can lead to self-absorption and […]

The Role of Hardship in Shaping Character

“Endure hardship as discipline…”   – Hebrews 12:7 I never liked the word discipline. It always made me think of punishment — and I didn’t care for punishment.  Losing privileges, being sent to my room, having my allowance docked — I never liked any of it.  The worst, however, was corporal punishment — the dreaded […]